Woot, mom’s night out! I was really excited to stick my husband with a super fussy baby but as luck would have it I was able to get Orion to bed by 6:30. I have a very lucky husband. I had a night out and he had a night off. For the first time, I wasn’t even worried about the baby or my husband or my husband dealing with the baby. I was totally like “I am out and I will be back when I get back, peace!”
I threw on some lipstick, a real bra and footwear other than flip flops, so fancy! I drive our little Fiat 500 thumping M.I.A. but wishing I had Santogold. I felt so liberated, I wanted to go dancing but settled for dancing in the car. I get to the theater and meet up with 3 other moms to see Magic Mike. It was a super nice theater with huge seats and you didn’t need to fight for a piece of the arm rest. The floor was wood and not nasty sticky carpet, I wouldn’t feel bad about letting my baby crawl around on those floors.
The movie was fun. My favorite was Big Dick Richie and not because the obvious or because he is an enormous muscled man, which does help. But because the first time we see him he is behind a sewing machine working on a gold thong, wearing thick black glasses. The movie also made me feel old because (SPOLIER) once drugs came into play I knew it would be the downfall. We enjoy the movie with abandon, hooting and hollering but director StevenSoderbergh (yeah, right, I was surprised before I saw this movie that he was the director this was far from Ocean's 11 or Erin Brockovich) was really great at cutting just when things started to heat up.
After the movie, we walked up the street to grab some drinks. I enjoy 2 (2!) cucumber/cilantro gimlets which were very yummy. I am sure we would have sat there longer chatting, dishing, and getting to know each other if last call hadn’t been at 11. We are planning to get crazy at a real strip club one of these nights. I am going to start saving my dollar bills in a jar label thong money.
I got home around 11:15 (big night!) and my husband was in bed and the baby (I know he is no longer a baby but a 15 month old toddler, he will always be my baby much like every dog to me is a puppy, until it is too embarrassing for him) was still asleep. The house did not fall apart without me for 4 ½ hours! Orion woke up around 4am for about 45 minutes and we both slept till about 8am.
You hear it said that it is important for moms to make time for themselves. But it is more important for moms to allow themselves to enjoy that time. There have been a few other occasions when I got out of the house for a few hours for me time but spent so much of that time stressing and worrying about the baby and that the baby was driving my husband crazy. It is so seldom that I get me time, that when I do, I will never again let worry spoil it for me.
I only wish the weekends were longer so I could have a day and my husband could have a day and we could still take care of all the other things which usually fill up a weekend. I do think that weeknights will start to get easier with Orion going to bed earlier and sleeping through the night. I can have a mom night out on a week night and Patrick has his dad’s night out. It really is important for us to get out, talk with other moms/dads and have fun. I am really thankful that we have found such a great group of people to enjoy these times with.
It took me 9 months to get out of the house and go to a mom group and I am so glad I did. Every Friday we get together for a playdate, it keeps Orion busy and me. We have both made some good friends and Patrick is now getting to know some of the dads. How cool would it be if Orion was making friends in this group that he will have for years! And I get to watch all these other little babies grow up which is really special.
I encourage all you mom’s out there to join a mom group! Find one you like and that fits your schedule. You and your baby can make friends, get out of the house, and your baby will sleep so well after he is all tuckered out from playtime. Then you can have a mom’s night out and hopefully the dads can get it together for a dad’s night out. It really is good for the whole family!